In general, parents want to achieve that comfort level of knowing that their child has a bright future ahead of them. We want them to be able to do good for the society, function and contribute to the welfare of others and themselves. In a perfect setting, we get excited with these ideas ahead of us. Some of us base our children’s interests on the current ‘generation’ they grew up in. Most of us went to regular schools. Does it make any difference if our children were homeschooled? Will they grow up just the ‘same’?
This is a valid question for us parents whose children are homeschooled. There will be times when we get worried if we’re able to provide them the best quality education there is. Were we able to bring them up with God in their hearts?
While we see a lot of experiences shared online, it won’t hurt to be mindful of our child’s feelings towards being homeschooled. Communication is key to identify the areas where our child needs more attention on. Building strong foundation and firm understanding of the essentials will go a long way. If we look at the long-term journey of our kids, we will come to the realization that eventually, they will have to deal with different matters in life on their own. We will not always be around to guide them and talk to them when they need us. Setting them up in a relationship with us, where they feel open and safe with their thoughts, will surely help them maintain the communication open with us no matter how old they get.
People often look at homeschooling as an opportunity to compare it with regular schools. This is absolutely normal and healthy. We must understand that although we have chosen homeschooling over regular school, there will always be situations where our children will be criticized for how they deal with situations. Sadly, it doesn’t matter whether your child is homeschooled or not, people have a tendency to do this. Instead of us worrying about what other people might think or say about our children, we should be focusing more on their own character. Remember that no matter what we say, or what we do, people see what they want to see.
Be a supportive parent to your children with their passions and their interests, know them by heart, be a bridge for them to know God better and His teachings, and teach them what matters most. If we commit ourselves to this advocacy of raising our children with love, compassion, and discipline; you will somehow feel calm and peaceful.
Let’s stop comparing, and start looking into our child as individuals. Show and lead your child how you demonstrate love among others, because this is the best way that we can teach them to becoming ideal adults. We will always be parents to them no matter the situation and no matter which path they wish to go through when they grow up.
Mimi Rothschild is a veteran homeschooling mother of 8, writer of a series of books called Cyberspace for Kids, and passionate advocate for children and education that is truly worthy of them. In 2001, Mimi and her late husband founded Learning By Grace, a leading provider of online Christian homeschooling Academies.